Be Yourself, But Perfect
Must read article (especially for women) in the NY Times about the pressure to be everything. Check it out.
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Must read article (especially for women) in the NY Times about the pressure to be everything. Check it out.
I'm almost ready to leave for Baltimore. My apartment is as clean as it's going to get, I'm packed up (except for my computer, obviously) and I can't wait to see all my friends in the land that I used to call home. Just a few random thoughts:
I was chatting with SaraK yesterday about everyone who is heading down to Baltimore for Pesach. I made some comment about it being an exodus. Then I thought more about how apropos that comparison is - here we are, Pesach time, breaking the chains of bondage from the slavery of New York, heading to the promised land of Baltimore to celebrate our freedom (and maybe even some David Chu's Chinese food). Works for me ;)
Another great article from the NY Times, this one about another item to add to your list of potential deal-breaking criteria for dates. Don't worry though, there's hope at the end of the article.
Interesting article in the NY Times about the decline of men who are choosing to wear turbans these days. Despite the religious Sikh custom of not cutting one's hair (ever!) many young men are finding it too difficult and desire to fit in with the rest of the world, so they are chopping their hair off and no longer donning turbans. What I found really interesting about the article is the part where they describe the measures being taken to try to encourage these men to wear turbans - from an instruction video explaining proper turban style for face shape to pageants highlighting the best turban tying techniques, attempting are being made to rescue this custom. It reminds me of high school, where we had a Sikh student who initially wore a turban but, due to the torments of our high school classmates, eventually succumbed to peer pressure and shed his turban and long locks in exchange for fitting in.
Ok, if I don't get to go to Jupiter, I think I should at least get to visit Saturn (besides, I think riding on the rings would be a lot of fun).
No, really, this article at Slate.com is all about it. And I had no idea such a huge percentage of people don't get enough - I guess I'm in good company.
Ever have that experience of trying to solve a mystery (AKA stalking) but honestly not really wanting the mystery to be uncovered, because you know it won't be nearly as much fun after the veil of secrecy is gone? The annoying sense of suspense that you want to end, but knowing that once gone, the real thing probably won't be even close to as interesting as you have imagined? It's almost enough to make you stop trying to solve your mystery, but not quite.
I've finally put my finger on the difference between the Northern mindset and Southern hospitality. In the South, when I go into a store and finish paying for whatever I am buying, the cashier thanks me for my business and I thank him or her for their help. Here, when I finish paying and thank the clerk, I get absolutely no response in return :(
I found out last night that a chick I know got engaged. I passed along the information to a couple of friends who also know her, and we were all extremely excited by the news. We were trying to figure out though, about the fact that this was a HUGE mazel tov, rather than just a normal one. We all felt it, but we couldn't articulate why one excitement should be more exciting than another. But it was. Maybe it's because this particular chick is "older" (whatever that means). Or maybe it's something else. All I know is our excitement was very sincere and very enthusiastic.
Absolutely fascinating article in the NY Times about those who hear voices and the new reframing being done in order to avoid a diagnosis of schizophrenia in such circumstances, which can result in treatment that is often more damaging than the original voices. I've occasionally wondered (usually spurned by a movie portrayal) what it must be like to be in a situation where you hear voices that you have absolutely no control over and that no one else can hear. I think it would be terrifying, but the people interviewed in the article take a very different, and seemingly therapeutic approach to the experience.
I'm still addicted to The Fray and this song was the last I heard on my Ipod before I got to work, and it's sticking in my head:
Newsweek published it's unscientific list of America's Top 50 Rabbis (hat tip - David Kelsey. As one of the commentors mentioned, it's hard to take such a list seriously when, for some reason, they spelled "Orthodox" wrong over and over, and I just don't agree with the credit they are giving to some of the individuals. Besides the fact that I have to question the authority of those making the list. But regardless, check it out.
I've done a lot of Pesach cleaning and my apartment is really appreciating it. Despite my avoidance of the hard work of scrubbing and vaccuming, it really is nice when it's all done.
Something else to look forward to with the students I'm planning on working with - really scary to even attempt to comprehend the level of discontent and unhappiness that generates such contempt and hate.
I received my first CD player as a gift for my high school graduation. After that I got it, I went out and bought two CDs. One was Lisa Loeb's "Nine Tails." I don't remember what the other one was, but it might have been Counting Crows. During my freshman year in college, I would listen to my Lisa Loeb CD over and over and over, and had every word memorized. This morning, I woke up with one of her songs in my head, so here's the LOTD:
It's amazing how relative things are - in one circle, you can be at one end of a spectrum, and in another circle, all the way at the other end. It just depends on where you are standing.
I walked to school today for the first time in months - yay! It was SO nice. I hope this means warm weather is here to stay - it's been about six weeks since that groundhog saw his shadow, hasn't it?
This post on Emes V'Emunah, and written by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz, is a must-read. Check it out.
Check out this article in the NY Times about a couple who has decided to have a "No Impact" year. Interesting stuff, I think I'm too spoiled to live like that.
This one is for my parents. Newsweek has a feature called "My Turn" where anyone can write in about their lives. It's often quite a poignant column. This week, the writer writes about leaving Las Vegas for the bitter cold of Buffalo (I certainly don't understand that one - NYC is cold enough for me). But the author's journey is predicated on a lot being offered there, despite the weather, but mainly family and legacy. My parents both grew up in Buffalo, leaving the snow behind roughly 30 years ago - right before I was born.
Sometimes things get so blown up in your head, when in reality they are non-existent. That reality check can be quite a relief, if only you (I) can push yourself (myself) into facing it. Phew.
I finally got around to reading last week's Newsweek last night on my bus ride home from school. The cover story was related to paleoneurology (my new career dream, they are starting to pile up). According to the article, scientists are starting to find that the evolutionary trail is not as direct as they once thought. The article is full of information about the evolution and changes that have occurred in brain structure throughout the years, leading to different survival factors, and which I just find fascinating.
Interesting article in the NY Times about the morality that seems to be found in non-human primates. I'm not sure that the empathetic and seemingly caring behavior shown from one primate to the next is necessarily moral, or is more about what's best for the group survival (which was mentioned in the "Darwin's God" article on whether religion is necessarily for moral living), although if it's the latter, there are plenty of classic philosophers who would argue that humans operate according to the same principles. Check it out.
Interesting post over at Beyond BT on BTs and divorce. Not positive I completely agree with the authors theories (which is fine, as he asks for other suggestions) but interesting nonetheless. I may update this post later with some of my thoughts.
Some days I get so much done and manage to get my mind focused on what needs to be done. And some days I spend hours with very little to show for it, even though technically, I think I was doing work. I've just spent the last three hours doing homework and the outcome has been clean and neatly folded laundry, a straightened up bedroom, and washed dishes. Oh, and about half a chapter outline for the presentation I have to give in two and a half days. Hmmm, not quite what I had hoped for.
What I'm listening to right now:
My co-worker just got back from vacation in the Caribbean. Because of the bad weather over the weekend, instead of flying directly from where she was to JFK, she had to take a slightly more indirect route.
I get such an education at work. Today, my co-worker brought in tamarind, a fruit native to Africa. It has a hard shell and pretty little black seeds in the middle and tastes kinda like dried apricot. It's yum and she was kind enough to share it with me.
This article talks about the challenges of working with middle school kids - what I have to look forward to :)
What a productive day. First, I managed to fix the windshield wiper that I broke when scraping the ice off my car last night. And I fixed it all by myself, thank you. And now I'm making spanish rice for the first time ever. Wish me luck on that one!
"Thank you" - just two words, and not such big ones, but it truly is amazing what a big difference it makes in your perception between the people who say them and the people who don't.
Episode of Grey's Anatomy in less than two hours! And I don't have school so I can watch it while it's actually on! (Though that does mean I have to endure the suspense during commercials.) I'm ready!
That's how much sleep I've now had in the last two days. That's up three hours from when I landed back in NY this morning, when I decided to ditch work because I honestly thought I would fall over if I attempted to make it through the day. It was well worth it, more will hopefully be written about the reason for my lack of sleep later (if I can manage to be eloquent enough to write about it). Let me just say, I thought Detroit weather was crazy when I woke up this morning and saw snow on the ground, considering it was 70 degrees there yesterday. And then I got back here, and found out that we'll have a ton of snow coming tonight and tomorrow. Yippee. (Yes, that's sarcasm.)
I've decided that it's time that I get acquainted with current events and try to keep up with the news. I've taken it upon myself to at least glance through the NY Times (online) each morning, in addition to reading blogs. Here are a couple articles that I found quite interesting:
Today's LOTD is from a favorite from a while back - this is a beautiful song and the lyrics kinda haunt me.
Because it's actually fairly warm out, I decided to take a walk at lunch. I was walking down the street, when all of a sudden, I hear "Ma Nish Ma?" (Hebrew for "How are you?" I turned around and saw a guy looking at me, smiling. I smiled back and kind of waved, then hurried off before he could try to engage me in a conversation in Hebrew (since he would quickly discover just how poor my Hebrew is). For a minute, I couldn't figure out how the guy knew I was Jewish, since I don't look particularly Semitic, but I think it was my skirt that tipped him off.
I have to admit to being a bit disturbed by my loss of an hour. Just because some beaurocrats decided that the clocks should change, doesn't really mean I'm ready to go to sleep an hour ealier than usual. I have yet to change my watch, mainly due to laziness. Actually, any clock where it takes more than just the push of a button to change, has yet to lose its hour. Am starting to gain my health back, after almost a week of being in various states of not feeling well.l I think it's time already. I do appreciate everyone who has been checking on me to see how I feel, and the refuah shleimah comments, even if I don't always respond :( I've been quite bad at responding to comments lately - not the commentor's fault, I promise.
What's better than sparkly make-up? Sparkly make-up on clearance, of course! Target is awesome. Just saying.
It's so nice when, on occasion, you get an e-mail that just makes you smile. It doesn't have to say much. Just a few words sometimes, but the words you need and it really kinda brightens your day a little. I hope to send more of those kind of e-mails.
Am home relaxing, trying to nurse myself of the full-blown cold my stuffy ears has apparently turned into. Today's LOTD is another of those songs I remember from junior high dances and singing on the bus on the way to school (the yellow school bus, not the mass transit one). I woke up this morning with it stuck in my head, so here ya go -
It has been a week of ailments. Sunday I woke up with stuffed up ears. Monday I pulled a muscle in my neck and was in major pain the entire day. Tuesday I was granted a minor reprieve and only had to deal with the still stuffed-up ears. Wednesday I developed an extremely sore throat which caused my whole head to throb. Today, my throat pain has dissipated and has been replaced with a stuffy nose, including some coughing and sneezing. What next? Can't wait to see what's in store for Friday.
My rarely-commenting friend has offered up another LOTD, this time one that features my name! (I have quite a soft spot for songs with my name in them, so Purim is one of my favorite times of year.) I had never heard this song before (mainly because I'm not up on my Hebrew songs), but now I'm a fan - enjoy!
My co-workers and I went in and bought a nice number of lottery tickets for tonight's $335 million drawing. So, of course, we've spent the morning discusses what we would do with such amounts of money. It's fun to think about, though honestly, beyond quitting my job so I could attend school full-time, I have no idea what I would do with that kind of money. I wouldn't really want to buy a house, because I don't know where I would want to live. My car is fine, though I suppose I could buy one a little nicer. I'm not into things so much, so I don't have any idea about what I would want, though I suppose I could use some furniture that isn't a hand-me-down or falling apart. I just don't understand how people manage to blow their lottery winnings- what do they buy?
Via Emes Ve-Emunah, an article on JTA highlighting a new program for Chareidi women to work in business and earn money in order to support their families.
I just spent about the last hour and a half installing and uninstalling and reinstalling iTunes to do some hunting to find out that really, QuickTime needed to be uninstalled and reinstalled. And all because I was trying to stay up to date. If so much of my music wasn't locked in iTunes I wouldn't have bothered, but lots of my music files I only have in iTunes format. So annoying :(
I watched Jeopardy tonight for the first time in ages. It used to be a favorite of mine. I might start watching again. Tonight's final Jeopardy answer was Austin, Texas (question - what state capital within the Central Time Zone has the largest population while also having no NFL, NBA, MLB or NHL teams). I figured it out while none of the contestants managed to. Do I hear Alex Trabek calling?
How come there is a word "unscathed" but not "scathed"? There is "scathing," but again, no "scathe." The English language is quite confusing.
All of a sudden, massive amounts of snow are falling from the sky. The wind is so strong that it's snowing upwards, what a weird sight. I'm really, really ready for spring.
I woke up yesterday morning with a head cold. Of course, I can't be normal, so a head cold to me is my ears being stuffed up. I'm reminded of the time when I was in college and this happened. I went to work, and told my co-workers how my ears were stuffed up. They tried to correct me by informing me that, no, my ears weren't stuffed up, my nose was. I explained to them that I had learned the difference between my nose and my ears way back in kindergarten and I was fairly certain that it was my ears that were stuffed up. The problem with having stuffed up ears is that they don't really make medicines for it, since most people have stuffed up noses. If anyone knows of any medications for stuffed ears, please let me know.
I'm (belatedly) beginning to look for an internship, now that I've actually had a bit of time to polish up my resume. It's reassuring to have built a list of a very good number of middle schools not too far from where I live. I'm also quite encouraged to see that on a good percentage of the school websites there is a section dedicated to the guidance department. Now I just have to send my resume over and hope to find an internship! Wish me luck!
I'm getting addicted to The Fray - here's some more lyrics from them:
My co-worker obviously misses me today, because I've gotten a couple e-mails from him. The most recent one was pointing me towards this way cool site. He is kind enough to feed my dreams of becoming an astronaut - this will be a perfect complement to the glow in the dark stars on my ceiling. Enjoy!
I'm zonked. Between waking up around 5:15 this morning, having a not-so-great fast and just getting in from school a little while ago, I'm wiped out. This is my first week taking Fridays off work as a catch-up day - have some school stuff and some apartment stuff to take care of, but looking forward to having a generally lazy day where I can sleep in and take it relatively easy. Oh yeah, and get ready for Purim! What are you dressing up as?
There are some tornadoes being spotted in and around my hometown at the moment. Both of my parents happened to call while waiting to see what would happen. I'm a little worried, but what's really frustrating is that while I'm using the Internet to check up on what's happening there, I realize how long I've been gone and how much I've forgotten of Alabama. It took me a few tries to remember the zip code where I used to live. I can't recall the name of the TV stations there. I guess I've been gone a long time. I just hope I don't lose the Southern warmth that Alabama is known for.
I just realized that tonight's Grey's Anatomy is a repeat :( Sarah - it's time to catch up!
I see lots of weird stuff in Manhattan, but this morning I was walking down the street and there was a large black man making duck calls on the street. I'm not exactly sure what ducks he was calling, considering it's winter, and we are in Manhattan. I thought maybe it was like Batman, and the Duckmobile was going to drive up, but if it did, I missed it. THAT would have been cool, though.