People Do Understand
Sometimes it's good to get things out. And it feels really good when the person you are getting it out with is going through the same things. For both people. And maybe it would happen more often if people would really talk to each other, rather than around each other. But that's the hard part sometimes.
posted by Shoshana @ 11:17 PM
5 Comments:
yeah, I totally hear that. but I find that sometimes people talk around each other for various reasons - 1) they are too afraid to say what they feel, for fear of opening up or of hurting ppl 2) they don't have the means of communication to express themselves properly 3)they are worried what the other person will respond.
My general response is to let things go and move on.
TRK
TRK -
I don't know that I agree that letting things go and moving on is the best route to take. I think often it is very beneficial to people to open up to each other and really talk, and connect. I am not saying that anything hurtful should be said. The post was more about realizing that others know and are going through similar difficulties in life and sometimes when you open up to them, you make bonds and can help each other feel less alone.
There are times when speaking around your friend is beneficial - sometimes, people cannot take criticism well if it's directed at them; they - and others - are more comfortable with their problems being hinted at, and their changing on their own recognition of its truth.
I should note that the above is only true in specific cases. Most of the time it's better to talk straight.
Ezzie - I definitely agree that there are times when talking around an issue and using gentle touch is definitely in order. I fully believe in attempting to let others figure out the best ways to solve their own problems. But I also think it's important to be open with friends and let them support you and vice versa.
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